Surviving Long Distance Relationship?
I was searching for the keyword “how to survive gay long distance relationship�. I was inspired to write you and tell my story. My name is Yujin and I am from Manila, Philippines. It is lucky that my parents had accepted my sexuality since I officially came out at the age of 19. I am 29 years old now. I had ended my 10 year relationship with another man last year. It should have ended on the 5th year but we tried to fix it. It survived another 5 years but those extra 5 years are becoming more and more difficult for both of us. and so, the relationship ended. After it ended, I had short term relationships.. This has been I guess my way to tell myself that I am “still� young and I will be just fine without him (the man I lived with for the last 10 years). But since these were all “rushed� It did not work as well. I will be honest that my sexual level was high and I had those new relationship to satisfy the need. Until one day October 19, 2009. I was seen by a guy whom I just added in one of those Social Network sites. He was just there in my profile page but we never get a chance to communicate. The next day, I received a letter from him saying “I saw you walking in front of Gateway Mall…just want to say hello�. I replied to him “You could have greeted me then please reach me at (my mobile number)�. And that afternoon, I received a text message from him. And so we met in my house. lets call him by the name “Merck�. Of course since this guy waited for 2 years just for me know that he exists, he was so exited about it (both emotionally and sexually). One the very first time we met, something happened. But according to him he did not do it for lust. He did it to let me know that his waiting has come to an end. He asked if I am still seeing another person and he will understand..he just wants honesty. I told him of course I am free. I do not know if destiny is really playful because when he visited my house for the first time, he received a call from the Employment Agency that his application to The Middle East is approved and he can now start working with his requirements. He is a Registered nurse. I told myself secretly “did he come just to say goodbye?�. I pretended happy but of course I was sad..I hate all forms of goodbyes. But I cannot hinder this person of his dream. We dated and courted each other for the next 2 weeks until we official on October 30, 2010. He revealed to me everything. From his childhood, his favorites, family. The challenge that I had with him was he gets jealous..not in an unhealthy way. Its because he does not want to lose me anymore. It was nice and I assured him that “he will be the one�. He knows that I am prone to temptation and since he is a Christian, he had asked me to throw all my porn related materials. According to him, if I believe and I truly love him, I will do it because this act is for me anyways. I did that. We enjoyed each other. He sees to it that we meet everyday, we go to church together, spend time quietly. We made plans and schemes and we do our best to survive. We were able to enjoy our “Monthsary�, Christmas and New Year. On January 1, 2010..He bought a pair of ring. Though we know that same sex marriage is not yet recognized in the Philippines, a simple moment of vows is good enough. I love this guy. So in love with him that I forgot that time flies. February 17, 2010, we talked and he said that he will leave for Middle East on March 1, 2010. I know that he will have to fly one of these days. I had accepted that situation. But I cant help but to cry and be sad. I have been reading books regarding LDR but how come I feel restless and fearful? He assured me that he will be on vacation every 6 months and he is going to do this for our dream. He even looks forward that he will find me a job there related to my work (I am working in a contact center). My mom is very supportive with me and him and encourages us. He even told my mom that “I am HIS forever�. Any advise on how I can survive this sadness?
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ok yeah i think so
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I am currently in a LDR, I am from the middle east, he is from the UK .... we've been dating for 5 months now, and i tell you .... it is not easy, but it is doable if you are in love. God bless technology, you will be using a lot of it. Make sure u have an account on skype, and that u have a web cam ... u need to set certain dates and times that u will both commit to in order to talk to each other. I have found this site quite helpful ... don't forget to check the sub links in there too. http://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Long-Distance-Relationship-Work Good luck!
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