Tomorrow is 1 year anniversary and my husband still?
tapes pictures,photos of his ex wife on my back,lower back and buttucks when we have sex, only doggy style or else I get nothing at all. The ex wife left my new husband with 2 kids and stole most of the family business money before she split. I was an employee at their home office and new the wife pretty well..She was a very nice woman and great looking..they made an odd couple..My husband worked his families business hard and long hours.I left before all this took place...so I feel very sad for my husband, he is half the man he was but I was always atracted to him since day one at the factory. I let him do this out of pitty ,hoping he will gain his spirits up, I know in my heart he still loves her, but I love him and want to please him and nurse him back to health. He cares for me I know, we never ever talk of his ex-but about 7 out of 10 times he takes the manila folder out ,places the photos on me and tapes them..then he starts having sex with me..Is this wrong or Helping? The reason I write is because tonight he started crying after he finished, he said i am ruined, i ruined you and then sobbed. I got scared So i might be hurting him when i thought i was helping. im so confused on what to do next. i never heard a man cry before like that it was nothing i've ever heard before. i love him so much and care for him,all i want is for him to be happy again. he is such a hard worker,honest,.. he is everything to me even though some say he;s average looking even below average. but right away i liked him.i would never interfere with their marriage when i worked there but she was pretty, and outgoing. i i really dont know what to do,if im wrong or right, more time he needs? he fell asleep. he tries, he applied for a new loan but rejected..he is trying to start small but cant get funded, but he lost the fight. i will get him back up and going, but how? i think he will get it out of his system, if economy wasnt bad then the banks wouldve given him the seed money to build again, he has the plans for factory,floors,machinery,he just needs the loan.so we hope econmoy picks up and then i pray he gets the loan, he is just a guy that would stop and say hi while busy,pick you up if stranded,help with any problem you had and still work without ever complainig, he was average guy and really nice smile, a great body(i think) and he is gentle but strong physically,used to be emotionally,no problem was too big for him to handle..he gave up in life and still there are glimpses ,a spark i see when he gets the blue prints and tries another bank, go to private investors, and he never finished high school.. you would all like him right away. i want him to get over what his wife did he doesnt care that she stole for many years, she never cheated on him and to be honest she was nice to me but really was beautifull..she liked me i want him back
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1 :
I really, really, really hope this is a joke.
2 :
That is very wrong and very disrespectful to you... You need to make him stop doing that
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(Kate--I wondered the same thing!) Shirleyy--If your question isn't a joke, it's wrong and it's not helping...him or you. I hope your self-esteem isn't that low. come on Shirelyy!!! I just looked up her profile...Shirleyy's username is SHIRLEY_YOU_JEST
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This makes me sick...I hope this is just a terrible joke.... not funny
5 :
your having a laugh... or trying too.
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Personally this seems really degrading, but If you're comfortable with it then who am I to say. Of course, since you're posting this question, it obviously bothers you. Confront your husband, simply tell him no more sex till you're all he needs to arouse him and make him feel whole.
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I too really hope this is just a joke.
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This is not normal..I hope this is fake
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im so wondering what made u love him that much?
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Ok this is the joke of the night, not funny!
11 :
You have either way too much free time, or way too little self esteem.
12 :
tapes pictures to you ...OMG don't let him do this to you!!!! This is Wrong!!! Very Wrong!!! There are places he can get help and its not by tapping pics of he's ex on you ! You can not help him, and doggy style has nothing to do with he's ex either PLEASE !!!
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This is the weardest sick joke i ever come across here.
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I'm not an relationship expert or anything but I wanted to answer. He's not over her yet. This will take some time, and he will get over her. I know this must be painful for you. Honestly I don't know how you can put up with, But this craziness will end, I wish I can say soon, but only time will heal this womb. You are going to have to up your sex game to help heal this womb. Speed up the process with some kinkiness of your own; after all this is your husband now. Let him do his thing, as disrespectful as that may sound, Because eventually he will get over her. But when he finishes his thing, you do your thing to him. Let him know "this isn't for you, this is for me" And you do some freaky stuff to him that turns you on. Masturbate in front of him perform oral on him. Please yourself, in front of him though. You need him to have images of you in his head doing these things. But now that he's your LIFE partner, which means until he cheats or beat you, you are there; You must learn to please yourself in front of him until he comes around. I believe if you do this, it will be sooner than later.
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If it is not a joke Then he is sick to do this to u and even u r sick to allow him doing so. Dont let him do so.
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You are some Woman! I will be blunt,It does sound very ill for your husband to tape photos on your back while he ismaking love to you. Does he stare at the photos or does he say I love you to YOU! Is this a ritual, or what and how did this start? He cares for you but is he in love with you. You might be mixing thing up whats healthy and what's not. Why not try a professional therapist to try and help him? I dont know any Woman that would do what you're doing but Why should I shame you. take him for help,talk it over..both of you.
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Wowza, Thats the most disrespectful thing I have ever heard and that is certainly saying something. This definetly is not true.
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3 months ago you were married for 14 months, now you're celebrating your 1 year anniversary. You need to check your calendar. You also need a life. I can't begin to think where's the fun in posting fake questions on YA. That's pretty lame. Can't believe some people actually believe this.
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